Boundaries 101: What They Are and Why Your Mental Health Depends on Them

Chances are, you were taught about boundaries as a child, such as not touching someone else without permission or giving people space when they’re upset. Personal boundaries are the mental, emotional, and physical limits we set to protect our well-being. They define how we engage in relationships, respond to demands, and maintain our sense of self. Without clear boundaries, it's easy to become overwhelmed or emotionally depleted. If you struggle with boundaries, establishing healthy limits will be key to improving your mental health and reducing stress. 

Signs You May Struggle With Boundaries

Do you consider yourself a “people-pleaser”? Sometimes, people get it into their heads that they should always be generous with their time and attention, even when they don’t feel like it. But setting boundaries isn’t selfish; it’s a form of self-respect. Some signs you have difficulties with boundaries are: 

• Saying yes when you want to say no 

• Feeling responsible for others’ emotions 

• Avoiding conflict at your own expense 

• Regularly feeling drained after interactions 

• Struggling to ask for what you need 

When personal boundaries are weak, people tend to overcommit, tolerate mistreatment, or lose sight of their needs. Over time, this leads to issues like anxiety, burnout, low self-confidence, and difficulty maintaining healthy relationships. 

How Therapy Helps With Boundary-Setting

Therapy can help you identify where your boundaries are lacking. Many people have never been taught how to assert themselves or feel guilty when they try. In therapy, you can practice communication skills, unlearn people-pleasing patterns, and build confidence expressing your needs. If you’re ready to create stronger personal boundaries but don’t know where to start, I can help. 

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